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The Anatomy of a Control Freak
Stephen Fagan always needed to be in charge. When he bought a house that needed extensive renovations, he oversaw the work himself. He ordered his second wife, Barbara, to say “I love you” into the phone whenever he called. He demanded that she stand in the front window each day and wave until he... Read More
Perceptions of the Male Role
Randolph Watts Jr. and L. DiAnne Borders of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro reported on small interview groups of adolescent males enrolled in North Carolina public schools. The adolescents were also members of a local youth organization. The eleven participants ranged in age from ... Read More
A Biblical Approach to Dealing with Anger
Anger is one of the most common and complex emotions that we all experience to a greater or lesser degree. The topic of anger has been the subject of many Christian and secular books, articles, and seminars. However, it is evident that the approaches to dealing with anger differ along theological... Read More
Case Management: A Case of Anger in Teens
Jarod is a 14-year-old Caucasian male who was brought for therapy a week after he had attempted suicide. Jarod swallowed a bottle and a half of aspirin and then drank a large amount of prescribed histamine liquid. Based on the reports of Jarod, his mother, and the attending physician in the emerg... Read More
Violent Men and the Anger that Fuels Them
Frank sat there, immobilized as he watched his three adult sons weeping and embracing their sister, Amy. His wife of 30 years sat next to him, crying. Frank’s questions whirled: “Do they think I’m a monster? Was my anger that bad?” Amy had severe anorexia. The family had gathered for inte... Read More
Acute Care in the Law Enforcement Community
I remember It well. It was July, 1986. A patrolling county sheriff squad car drove by my house while I was mowing my lawn. I asked myself: With all the training I’ve had in counseling, would there be a way to serve my community? The next day I mentioned this to a police officer who was then a st... Read More
Abusers and True Repentance
As a psychologist and seminary professor, I frequently entertain questions about the timeline for forgiveness and reconciliation in situations of domestic or familial sexual abuse. Most frequently, church leaders want to know when it is appropriate to encourage a victim of abuse to allow an offen... Read More
Anger and Violence: Paying Attention to Causes of Anger and Violence
Engraved on the hallway arch of Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado, is the proclamation: “The finest kids in America pass through these halls.” In 1999, two of American’s “finest” became killers. Months later, a man, with no history of violence, killed his wife and children and then nin... Read More
The Anger Difference: Are Men or Women Angrier?
When you read these words, somewhere in America, a couple is arguing. Both shout in anger. He walks away ignoring her, knowing that will make her angrier. She follows him into another room, still venting her rage. Finally, without warning, he turns and strikes her, ending the argument. Our first... Read More
The Sin of Being Offended
An old children’s rhyme says, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” While this playground quotation should be true, anyone involved in counseling knows it is rarely reality. Being offended by what others do to us or around us can be a dangerous path. There ... Read More
Violence and Domestic Abuse
Kris Henning, Angela Jones and Robert Holdford studied attributions made by both male and female domestic violence offenders. They compared 1,267 men and 159 women convicted of domestic violence (in a heterosexual relationship) on a variety of measures of attributions of blame, denial and minimiz... Read More
Helping Ragers: Confronting Intermittent Explosive Disorder
If there ever was a candidate for macho man of the year, Clark would be it. Large and burly, he had a reputation for being tough and fearless. He would take no guff from anyone. All his life Clark had been known as one who would rather fight than negotiate. Back in his school days he spent plenty... Read More
Mad as Heaven: God's radical grace and Jonah's anger.
Do you know why I love the story of Jonah?” I had preached from the book of Jonah about God’s heart for the world and now was shaking hands with people as they were leaving the service. Dan periodically offered a comment that kept me humble. “I love Jonah because it tells me of a preacher who was... Read More
Anger: An Often Mislabeled, Often Misperceived Emotion
Anger is a complex and compound phenomenon. It is often misunderstood and mixed up with other types of responses or reactions. Anger can be perceived as a feeling, an attitude, a state of mind, a position, or a wave of emotions. It also can be considered a mere temper, wild impulse, or acting out... Read More
Hatred: The Innter Side of Anger
Graphic examples of uncontrolled rage abound—the Holocaust, Columbine, and the fatal dragging of a Black man behind a truck in Texas. Of course, we could add many other stories to this list, including the untold ones that each of us can tell. These events raise important questions about our inten... Read More
How to Work Efficiently with Highly Volatile Couples
One of the most difficult cases for many marriage counselors is the highly volatile couple. These couples have a history of verbal and physical abuse, and many are even mandated by the court to seek therapy. They pose a therapeutic challenge in that they have little or no consistent conflict reso... Read More
Managing Anger in your Clients and Anger in Yourself
Anger happens. If two people are in true relationship with each other and not just acting out sanitized roles, there will be times of disappointment, frustration, fear, and hurt—all of which can engender anger. The experience of anger between counselor and client is well within the normal limits ... Read More
The Role of the Father in Anger Issues: How does the father's role during childhood relate to anger problems in adulthood
Terry was a 40-year-old commercial artist, who came to counseling because his wife was concerned about his “anger problem.” He was quick to point out that he never got angry with her—that wasn’t the problem. He simply got angry at everything else. If he was working on a layout and the lead in his... Read More
From The Editor: Back to Basics
Anger is not my favorite topic. I don‘t think this is because I’m an angry person, resisting a subject that might hook into my own issues. It’s just that the subject of anger seems so dull, so elementary. I like to be creative, to think about cutting edge issues, to anticipate the future. Like ev... Read More